I want to like random & casual sex, but I just can’t. The reason being: I cannot fuck someone that I don’t feel some kind of connection to AND be attracted to. Attraction to me is both physical and mental—and for me, it is mostly mental. What I mean to say is, I need to be attracted to what is behind the ears as much, if not more than, the rest of the potential lover. If all of this is in place: the mental attraction coupled with physical attraction, how could it not turn into something more, some deeper connection? It hardly seems possible that I could keep it at something casual. I would without a doubt develop deeper feelings.

• I know exactly what you mean because i am the same way. I don’t have to love the guy, but i do have to have a connection with him.

What it means for to get wet?

• when a girl “gets wet” it simply means her vagina is lubricating itself and preparing her (physically) for sexual intercourse.

I’m not particular a fan of one-night stands even though one-nighters are a firecracker of sexuality: short, explosive, and leaving a lasting memory that often trumps the actual experience.
When I do find myself in such a moment, I use them as my time to be adventurous, my time to shine. Also, communicating often guarantees a better experience. Since she doesn’t know what I’m into, being vocal is good. Never know, she might be frisky and together we can end up going to previously uncharted territories.
The thing is, a one-night stand isn’t just about fucking, being an ass then going home. Us guys tend to let the confidence of a one-night stand inflate our egos, sometimes in a demeaning way. I might not see her again, but I don’t break ties on a bad note — if not for my own pride, then because all girls talk. Furthermore, some one-night stands may prompt a desire to extend my stay with the mystery woman. 
I try not ruin any opportunity to see her again with a cocky demeanor to deter her from future communication.

• very well stated:) I like how you said “some one-night stands may prompt a desire to extend my stay…” because that is definitely true.

I can have sex with a guy without love being involved, as long as there is sexual chemistry. To me it is better because there is no “everyday mundane baggage” to get in the way of the sex. Everyone knows why they are there, so to speak, and it isn’t to talk about the workday or sales on beef at the grocery store. :-) 
(I’m female)

• i am glad to get a response like this from a female:) it knocks out the stereotype that ALL females are completely emotionally attached during sex. we can do whatever guys can do.

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